How to Start Wedding Planning once you get Engaged

How to start wedding planning once you get engaged

Congratulations, You just got engaged!

Within seconds of announcing your engagement, you probably will start getting questions from friends and family. When is the wedding? Do you have a date set yet? Where are you planning to get married? What will you be wearing? More over, you will get many bridal magazines, invited to different Wedding related Facebook groups and start getting recommendations on what you have to do. If you or any of your family members don’t have experience planning a wedding, you are left wondering how to start Wedding planning once you get engaged. Things can easily start getting overwhelming and you will start feeling the pressure to start planning the wedding. We will say no matter how hard it is, wait a bit before you start planning your wedding. Give yourself and your partner some time. Enjoy the feeling of being engaged. Stare at your ring 24/7. Celebrate! You will never get back those first days and weeks after you get engaged. Share your happiness with friends and family. 

First step in planning your wedding

Now that you both had some time to enjoy being engaged, we will suggest you start planning your wedding with one conversation at a time. First conversation to have is how long do you want to remain engaged? The length you choose will be your wedding planning timeline. Long engagement is a luxury as it will give you enough time to plan it all. Do you have a dream vendor you always wanted to be part of your wedding? If so, ask them for few dates that they are available in the month you are thinking of getting married. If not, pick 3 or 4 dates and lets get organized and do some vendor shopping.

Being organized is key to planning a wedding.

If you like to write notes, a wedding binder is the way to go. You can be environmentally friendly, use a One Note or Microsoft planner. The advantage of Microsoft Planner is you can assign tasks to people and set a deadline for tasks. This will ensure that everyone is aware of their tasks and deadlines.

Start a Wedding Checklist

Now lets talk first step, get this Wedding checklist printed or use it for reference. Based on this Wedding Checklist, we recommend creating your own Checklist based on your Wedding date. Cross off as you tasks. Always take notes after every conversation with a vendor.

Time for 2nd conversation: Wedding Priorities

Now its time for another conversation, What’s most important to you when you think of your dream wedding. Each of us have different priorities and our personalities are different. So have this discussion with your partner and decide what’s most important to both of you. What do you care the most? Best Venue? the dress? décor, throwing a best party ever, spending time with friends and family? Do you want to have a big wedding or a small intimate one?

Let's talk Wedding budgets

Lets talk on how you can budget your wedding. It all depends on your priorities you discussed above. You can get married by spending as little as possible to as much as you can. On an average couples spend around $40000 for 150 guests on their wedding. Here are some cost breakdown that might help you in Wedding planning.

Note: The price here is an average. It will change based on the venue or vendor you select.

$4,000 Venue Rental
$6,750 for $45/plate x 150 people ( this is lower end cost per plate)               ⠀⠀⠀⠀
$2,000 for your drinks⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
$750 for Bartenders⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
$350 Officiant⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
$4,500 Photographer⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
$3,500 Videographer⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
$2000 DJ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
$450 Insurance, Liquor License + Marriage License⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
$1,200 Hair + Makeup⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
$3,000 Florals⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
$3,500 Rentals + Decor⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
$3,000 Wedding Planner⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
$1,500 Limo/Limo Bus/ Transportation⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
$1,000 Stationery + Signage⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
$3,000 Couples Wedding Attire + Alterations⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
$750 Cake/Dessert⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
$500 Gifts⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
$1,500 Any misc costs

How to Plan a wedding on budget?

This is one of the questions or concerns we always get from couples. One major tip to save some wedding costs is by reducing the guest lists. Another option is looking at your earlier discussed priorities again. Just because everyone does it doesn’t mean you need to do too. Choose what is important to both of you and spend only on that. Do what will make you happy.

Task lists & Communication

Divide & conquer is the best way to get things done. You & your partner should be involved in every step. Attend Wedding vendor consults together. Even though you have a Wedding checklist, communicate tasks and deadlines and discuss after each task is complete so both of you are on same page.

When wedding planning gets tough, take a break or switch to a different activity like creating websites, writing bio descriptions etc. Don’t stress on the planning. Instead have fun, make memories and cherish the planning process.

How to start wedding planning



  1. You are correct; everyone should create their wedding checklist. Wedding planning begins immediately after the engagement party with determining venue, reception site, date, flowers, etc. So make sure you create a wedding checklist of the list of things that need to be done, such as the budget, the venue location, & the number of people attending your wedding. Thank you for uploading this blog.

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